Alternative realities

I’m going to preface this blog by saying that I studied Philosophy at university so sometimes I have slightly random thoughts and concepts! Sorry about that, but here goes…

Scientists and Philosophers have spent centuries debating whether this is the only version of reality or whether there are parallel universes. I think I’ve answered the question, so I’m going to share it with you.

It’s been really interesting to see everyone’s lockdown experiences. For me, my biggest challenge has been trying to juggle working and parenting, which has often left me consumed with guilt that I’m doing neither particularly well. Either I’m neglecting my son or my work. Myself and my husband are lucky that we’re both still working and can work from home. We’re also fortunate enough to have a big garden so it’s easy for us to have outside time and space. 

I very much feel that our ability to self-isolate is a privilege that not everyone has. Part of me feels I don’t have the right to complain as I’m sure others are in a far worse position, but lockdown still has its challenges for us.

I’m fortunate that my son is not yet of school age so I don’t have the additional pressure of trying to keep up with school work. Likewise I don’t feel the pressure to make sure this time has value, by learning a new language or a new skill. We’re staying safe and spending time together, and that has intrinsic value. 

I can well imagine parents who are working looking at those who’ve been furloughed with envy, thinking how much easier it would be if they weren’t trying to juggle working and parenting.

But I’m equally sure many of those who’ve been furloughed are worried about money and job security, looking at those who are still working and wishing they were lucky enough to be juggling working and parenting. Whilst the government has put an astounding level of support into the economy to protect people, I know many are not eligible for support. There are people who were made redundant just before, or don’t qualify because of the dates, or simply fall through the gaps and are not entitled to anything.

I can only imagine how challenging it is with young children if you live in a flat and don’t have easy access to outside space. And, of course, there will be many people struggling with mental health, illness or bereavement on top of all this.

What I’m saying is that we are all having different experiences and they are all equally valid. We are all living through the same period, but each individual is experiencing it in a different way. Everyone’s lockdown is different and these are our alternative realities.

There are as many different versions of reality as there are people on the planet.

So the moral of the story is to stop judging others or comparing yourself to others and be kind. You have no idea what someone else’s lockdown is like so it’s important to remember to be kind to everyone, including yourself.

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